The following thoughts are taken from the website FW Index and from the book Fascinating Womanhood.

A man wants a woman who will place him in the number one position on her list of priorities, not somewhere down the line.
He wants her other activities to revolve around him, not vice versa.
This is an inner need that has dire consequences when things like children, career, homemaking, or friends are placed before him.
A man does not expect his wife to neglect her duties – in fact he wants these duties done to the best of your abilities, but he does not want to be less important than they are.
Neither does he want to be regarded as a paycheck, convenience, or escort.

There is a tendency for women to fail in this area.Picture3
With most of us it begins early in childhood with our dreams of an ivy-covered cottage, children, and a home…but no husband in it.
Later on we dream of Prince Charming.
We dream of him sweeping us off of our feet and living happily ever after.
The problem is, once we catch our prince, we revert to our earlier dream and leave him out of the picture.
We devote ourselves to our homes, our children, and other affairs, and our husbands begin to play second fiddle to our other “more important” activities.

This makes him feel as if he was married for a means to an end, and not for himself.
Let’s take a closer look in detail at some of the things we tend place first.

1. Children: Picture4
If you are like most women, children are highest on your list of responsibilities.
This devotion to our children was placed here by our Creator, but He did not intend this duty to usurp the duty we have toward our husband.
Mrs. Andelin uses a woman called Clara as an example.
She was a model of devotion and the perfect mother.
She always spoke in a moderate tone to her children, helped them with their lessons, catered to their needs, and gave them lavish birthday parties.
Her children were the center of her world. Never had she seen a finer example of motherly devotion..

Mrs. Andelin admired her greatly and wanted to be like her, until…one day she realized the unhappy place her husband had.
He was a provider, and father, but not the king of his castle.
He bitterly resented this position.
As it grated on his personality he became angry and the uglier side of him soon began to surface.
This resentment can even cause a man to resist having more children.
He won’t want any more competition for your affections than he already has.
Making him number one will not interfere with your sacred duty to your children, it will enhance it, neither will it diminish your love for them, but bring forth better fruit.
Your children will be happier and more secure when their father is in his rightful place, with the respect and admiration that this position carries.

3. Appearance:
Everyone wants to be well-groomed and cared for. Picture7
We all should have self-respect, but when you spend hours on your nails, hair, clothes, exercise, etc. then your motives may be in question.
If you are doing these things to please your husband, he will no doubt appreciate it, but if you are placing him second to this he may envy the public you dress for.

4. Parents:
Do you have more feelings and closeness to your parents than you do for your husband? Picture8
Do you still call your parents’ house “home”?
Do you let them come between you and your husband?
Do their wishes count more than his?
Better check who is in the first-place spot.

5. Money, Success, Status:
Sometimes a man’s money or position becomes more important than he is. Picture9
If he is happy with his job and income, then you should be willing to live within his means.
If he WANTS to press on, then by all means you should back his efforts, but if you are the one pushing for more and more, you will be causing great unhappiness and problems.

6. Career, Talent, Activities, Friends:
One of the biggest obstacles in placing your husband as number one is a career. Picture10
Most of us feel a great deal of pressure to do our best for our boss.
With women this can be a problem, since she also is to do her best for her husband.
Some women even have such a drive for success that there husband sinks down the ladder of success as she steps on his head to climb it.
Care is also needed not to place clubs, pursuit of talents, outside activities and friends before your husband.
You should always be willing to sacrifice a part of these things if necessary.

Should a Man Make You Number One?

Sometimes this isn’t possible or even right.
A man’s life has a different nature than a woman’s. vintage_love_romance_couple_in_a_loving_embrace_necklace-raf56aa49708c4270bbb3c09abb236580_fkoep_8byvr_512
His is a leadership role.
He also may play an important role in civic, religious, or social affairs.
A woman’s role is supportive, and she is to be her husband’s helper, confidant, counselor if need be, friend and one of his greatest allies.
Failure to place him in the number one position is often the reason a man turns to another woman.
Women with less than good scruples are more than willing to make your man feel important, appreciated and admired.