The wife has a responsibility. The prosaic arts of housekeeping are far more important factors of home happiness than many people without experience imagine.
Kuskin talks to young women of the etymology of the name wife: “What do you think the beautiful word ‘wife’ comes from?” he asks. “It means ‘weaver.’ You must either be housewives or house-moths, remember that.
“In the deep sense, you must weave men’s fortunes, and embroider them, or feed upon them, and bring them to decay.
“Wherever a true wife comes, home is always around her. The stars may be the canopy over her head, the glowworm in the night’s cold grass be the fire at her feet, but home is where she is; and for a noble woman it stretches far around her, — better than houses ceiled with cedar, or painted with vermilion, shedding its quiet light for those who else were homeless.”
Home is the true wife’s kingdom. There, first of all places, she must be strong and beautiful.
She may touch life outside in many ways, if she can do it without slighting the duties that are hers within her own doors. But if any calls for her service must be declined, they should not be the duties of her home. These are hers, and no other one’s.
Very largely does the wife hold in her hands, as a sacred trust, the happiness and the highest good of the hearts that nestle there.
The best husband — the truest, the noblest, the gentlest, the richest-hearted — cannot make his home happy if his wife be not, in every reasonable sense, a help- mate to him.
In the last analysis, home happiness does depend on the wife. Her spirit gives the home its atmosphere. Her hands fashion its beauty. Her heart makes its love. And the end is so worthy, so noble, so divine, that no woman who has been called to be a wife, and has listened to the call, should consider any price too great to pay, to be the light, the joy, the blessing, the inspiration, of a home.
Men with fine gifts think it worthwhile to live to paint a few great pictures which shall be looked at and admired for generations; or to write a few songs which shall sing themselves into the ears and hearts of men.
But the woman who makes a sweet, beautiful home, filling it with love and prayer and purity, is doing something better than anything else her hands could find to do beneath the skies.
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Thank you, thank you!!! Sometimes when you see girls or women you used to know and they chose a worldly path and have prestige(or even just a strong footing) in the given field, it can be very hard not thinking, “that could have been me…..I was very good at that.” It can be very hard to remember that this is the better choice. That we are creating souls for heaven!!! But reminders are so often needed, and some young mothers loose sight of this goal. It is very sad. 🙁 Thank you for posting,….I very much needed it today. ;’) <3
I agree, Mary. Reminders are needed to keep us focused on what is the most important career of all…..motherhood. When I look around me at those who have chosen the path of career over family, or whatever over family, I am so thankful that I chose the other path. My life is full….yes, of crosses, too….but the joys, camaraderie and happiness of family far outweigh the crosses of a lonely, unfulfilled life of money, prestige and “things”.
Such beautiful and inspiring words. I wish I had realised the value of being a woman and the various vocations we might be called to when I was growing up. I’m very glad to have them now in any case 🙂
Thanks, mum! It is encouraging to be reminded that the every day little (or not so little) things are what matter most..reminded that being a mother is such a beautiful vocation. Thank you especially for being such a loving and open hearted mother to me..
Thank you Virginia! <3 <3