by Father Lovasik, Catholic Family Handbook
Ask God to help you be patient
Even people who constantly strive to please God have a goodly share of hard things to bear. This is the reason patience is so necessary for happiness in marriage.
Be constantly prepared to bear disagreeable things.
When there is an abundance of the good things, there is danger of becoming too occupied with passing and material considerations.Be grateful to God for them.
When disagreeable things, reverses, sorrows, and disappointments come your way, put your confidence in God, who will strengthen you.
Ask for patience. In the mercy of God, reverses are sometimes sent to awaken your wayward conscience or to test your love of God. When God so tests you, you must never be wanting in love and confidence and patience.
Be honest and sincere
You owe your spouse truth and sincerity. Our Lord is the greatest example of these virtues. He wished everyone well and was never anything but kindness itself in word and deed. He never made use of men for selfish ends, but spoke and acted openly, sincerely, and uprightly.
Honesty and sincerity bring about confidence and a spirit of loyalty. Few things contribute more to the success of a marriage.. Such confidence bolsters a husband’s flagging courage and inspires him with the will to win and to measure up to the high opinion that his wife and children have of him and his abilities.
The enemies of honesty and sincerity are nagging, miserliness, jealousy, and in-law trouble.
Nagging is not always the fault of women, yet it seems that they often fall victims to this disagreeable habit that spoils family happiness. Do not be a nagging wife.
Do not try to remake your husband. Prize your own individuality and be willing to put up with his.
Do not expect your husband to render daily reports on where he was, why, when, and with whom. Be an eager listener, but a reluctant inquisitor.
You must assure yourself of your husband’s unwavering devotion. The result of your placing implicit confidence and trust in him will not incline him to take advantage of your refusal to snoop or pry, or to step out of line.
He will be won by decency, gratitude, loyalty, and trust, but never with fear.
A sincere and trusting wife will have a great influence in shaping her husband’s life. Stand by your husband and share with head and heart his successes and failures.
Give him due encouragement, but have the courage to drive home a sometimes unpleasant truth.
Never be afraid of responsibility, but be prepared to embark on a new course of life with your husband, should the need arise.
You will bring to your husband the love and inspiration he needs in the many problems of life, and that love and inspiration will weave threads of gold in his life’s pattern.
Wealth, fame, and power are no satisfactory substitutes for the hard-earned joys of the married life, for not one of them can satisfy the hunger of the heart for love.
When your husband knows he is married to his most trusted confidant, your influence soars. -Matthew L. Jacobson https://amzn.to/2MtbcTT (afflink)
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Good pointers, thank you!
Could you elaborate more on the honesty and sincerity part with our husbands. I know it may sound straight forward, but I don’t want to get them confused with honestly in a negative way or sincere nagging