The Big “C” – Commitment



The statistics today for divorce are disheartening. Remember that old song “We’ve Lost that Lovin’ Feeling”? What a sad state of affairs when marriage is measured by a feeling.

I would really be a wreck if I went into my marriage thinking that if I wasn’t up to a certain ideal, he could walk out on me, no questions asked. And that is how it is in this world of ours. To me, it is mind-boggling.

People have not grasped the Big “C” that the Catholic Church has given us through the Sacrament of Marriage. “Commitment”. Commitment….it is not confusing.

From Emilie Barnes’ Together Moments for Couples:

People are confused about love and about marriage. We have abandoned the concept of true unity and substituted it for warm and fuzzy feelings. And the media doesn’t help, that’s for sure.

Today we often hear of a dissatisfied mate who wants to file for divorce uttering these words, “The chemistry is gone.” In reading Scripture he or she has not grasped the true “C” of the Bible. It isn’t chemistry, but it is commitment. Couples today are confused about marriage. For some reason we have abandoned the real concept of unity and bought into the false belief that marriage is warm, fuzzy, and has bells and whistles that shoot into the air when the lights go dark. This is Hollywood’s version.

We love to hear stories from couples who have been married for a long period of time. All have had rocky roads along the way, but they share a common characteristic—they have endured. They express their joy by saying, “I’m so glad we stuck it out. Now we are receiving God’s blessing for being obedient.”

Old-fashioned, lifetime commitments. True love endures in spite of difficulties. Paul says, “Love never fails” (1 Corinthians 13:8). Create a deep desire in your heart and soul to look after the welfare of your mate. Let it grow and become more enduring the older you become.


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Women historically have been denigrated as lower than men or viewed as privileged. Dr. Alice von Hildebrand characterizes the difference between such views as based on whether man’s vision is secularistic or steeped in the supernatural. She shows that feminism’s attempts to gain equality with men by imitation of men is unnatural, foolish, destructive, and self-defeating. The Blessed Mother’s role in the Incarnation points to the true privilege of being a woman. Both virginity and maternity meet in Mary who exhibits the feminine gifts of purity, receptivity to God’s word, and life-giving nurturance at their highest.

You’ll learn how to grow in wisdom and in love as you encounter the unglamorous, everyday problems that threaten all marriages. As the author says: If someone were to give me many short bits of wool, most likely I would throw them away. A carpet weaver thinks differently. He knows the marvels we can achieve by using small things artfully and lovingly. Like the carpet weaver, the good wife must be an artist of love. She must remember her mission and never waste the little deeds that fill her day the precious bits of wool she s been given to weave the majestic tapestry of married love.

This remarkable book will show you how to start weaving love into the tapestry of your marriage today, as it leads you more deeply into the joys of love.

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